Controlled Crying Tried and Tested by real mums!
An Interview with Laura from the Breastest News
I have been asked by lots of mums how I got my babies to sleep so well, on their own. It was a long process and my mental health took a battering along the way. Controlled crying was our only option left and I am so glad I tried it. Want to know what Controlled Crying is? Click Here…
I have teamed up with Laura from The Breastest News to find out how she got on with the controlled crying method with her two children.
What did you do before Controlled Crying?
Jayne: It really is hard when your baby will not settle, mentally and physically. I would sit in the same room as my 10 month old son waiting for him to settle and sleep, while feeding a new born at the same time. We were so tired with a 10 month old who would not self settle and a new born waking every 2 hours for a feed. I was literally getting no sleep and after a month of no sleep I was at breaking point, to the point where my mental health broke down. We had to try something just so we could at least get some sleep!
How did you start?
Jayne: We could not cope with the lack of sleep either, like you Laura, we did some research and came across controlled crying. I needed some sleep and I think I would have tried anything at that point!
How did you cope emotionally the 1st night?
Jayne: It was hard, and I hated leaving our son to cry, but at the same time I knew for my own health this needed to be done.
How long did it take before your little one started to self settle?
Jayne: I have heard that if you follow the controlled crying routine exactly as the experts say you should start to see your baby settling on their own after a few nights. Like you Laura 3-4 nights was the same for us, I could not believe it! I would hear him wake in the night, but he was no longer waking up needing me or his dad to settle him.
At any point did you use a dummy?
Jayne: My son took the dummy very well. My daughter, when we started controlled crying with her at 7 months would not take the dummy at all.
How did your other half cope?
Jayne: I think he coped better with it than I did, he does have a lot more patience than I do! He somehow manages to block out most of their crying and whining!
What age would you recommend starting controlled crying?
Jayne: I agree Laura, that it is different for every baby. We started at 7 months with our daughter because she literally would scream the second we put her in the cot, most of the time due to her being overtired!
How long does it take for your little one to settle at night now? How long do they sleep at night? Has it affected how early/late they wake up?
Jayne: It so great to hear that your son sleeps so well 8 years on! I hope both of mine will continue to be good sleepers! My children are in the same room now, they go to bed at 7pm are asleep by 8pm and now sleep until around 8am most mornings, unless they are ill. Having 2 under 2 and being pregnant is still hard work but at least now I am getting sleep!
Emotionally, how do you feel now that your little one can self settle?
Jayne: It really is the best thing ever! We have got our evening’s back (well until baby number three arrives at least), my mental health is well on the way to recovery, and I don’t constantly feel like a zombie!
Looking back would you have started controlled crying sooner?