How I coped with Sleepless nights
Not all that well to be honest, well to start with anyway, and does any parent actually ever get used to sleepless nights? I will let you know about when when baby number 3 arrives this October!
Its 12am, you only went to sleep an hour ago right? But your little baby is waking, kicking their blankets off, letting you know that its feeding time once again… Feed, wind, change nappy and tuck back up into their cot.
2am arrives, it really doesn’t feel like you’ve been asleep for about and hour and a half does it? Again you feed, check nappy, cuddle and tuck back up into bed, hoping that your baby goes straight back down to sleep and sleep for at least 2 hours, but 3 would be lovely!
4am – again? How can such a tiny human be so darn hungry?
6am arrives and its time to get up, but you’ve only had 3-4 possibly 5 hours broken sleep??? #mumlife
I’m sure I don’t need to tell you that newborns are 24/7, they feed a lot, amongst other things, but its those night feeds that are the biggest challenge yet! Do you dread the night feeds? You are not alone I did to start with.
Although I may have not got used to the sleepless nights I taught myself to embrace them and enjoy these moments with my baby….
Days were fine and at least there’s coffee to keep you going! The nights were hard to begin with I desperately hoped that my baby (both babies when they were brand new) would go back to sleep as soon as I had fed them, although most of the time this was not the case and I was for the first four weeks sat up with them trying to soothe their colicky bellies. I remember many a night pacing the floor trying to get them both back to sleep.
It really is a brutal challenge to drag yourself out of bed every hour to feed your newborn. Eventually it does become second nature and after those initial weeks I found myself doing the night feed routine multiple time a night on autopilot!
There are some tips on learning to be at one with the dreaded night feed routine…
- Take advantage of your heightened senses, use this quiet time to bond with your baby. Its just the two of you and that is something that warmed my heart to the core. I began to love nothing more than having a cuddle and a quiet chat with both of my babies. I got to be with them uninterrupted and give them all of my attention.
- There’s no other distractions, just you and your baby, take them in and stop thinking about the pile of washing or the dirty dishes that need doing and just enjoy those few moments when you are both relaxed and enjoying cuddles.
- Your baby will sense how you are feeling, so if you are stressing out and irritated because you are not getting enough sleep your baby will pick up on those feelings and will more than likely not settle back to sleep very easily. So be calm think of nothing else but your baby, and hopefully you will both get some sleep.
- Remember that these night feeds will not last forever. Every baby is different and breast fed babies are different to formula fed babies. Both of mine were formula fed (not though not trying to breast feed but that’s another story), my son slept through the night from 3 months but my daughter did not sleep through the night until she was 6 months!
- Get your other half to take a turn – easier for formula fed babies. If you are breast feeding could you express some milk for the night and let your other half do one of the feeds so you can get some sleep!
There are many more night feeds to come for us!!
I did not like doing night feeds and probably won’t when number 3 arrives, but I came to accept that for now those babies needed me to feed them, so that they can grow and develop. I focused more on the cuddles and those quiet moments, taking the opportunity to really bond with my babies!
Does anyone else have any tips or tricks on dealing with sleepless nights?
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